As most of you know, our oldest son has Autism. Now, I suppose having raised a child with a disability may make me a little more sensitive to things I hear or read, but typically I don’t let comments get to me. However, I read something today that I’m really struggling with.
A mom, who is very obviously struggling with the challenges her child is facing wrote that she hoped her son would grow up to be a “real boy.”
Ryan’s first diagnosis was mental retardation with autistic-like behaviors. It was very hard to hear that my baby, my first born, was going to go through life having challenges that other children didn’t have. However, at no point did I ever consider that my son was not a “real boy.”
So now I struggle with the fact that a parent would feel that their child is not a real boy because they are facing challenges in life and I read between the lines to hear this person saying that people with disabilities are less real than those without disabilities.
Believe me, I know there are people in the world that very much feel as if someone with a disability is less of a person, but to hear another mother say this about her child is a very difficult thing for me to handle.
Am I just being overly sensitive to this comment?