Moving on can be a really hard thing to do when you lose someone that you love so deeply, but moving on is also very necessary for the health and well-being of all the loved ones left behind. I don’t think there is a right or wrong answer to the length of grieving. For a matter-of-fact, I would venture to guess that we will have moments of grief over Ben for the rest of our lives. Right now the grief is intense, but we know with time the intensity will lessen and we will find that new normal in our lives. For now, we are taking steps to move forward because we deserve that and even more so, Lili and Naomi deserve to have us move forward.
So, what’s normal in our house right now? Three year old melt-downs and the same three year old saying funny things. Like yesterday when she asked for something without saying please and I asked, “What’s the magic word?” She responded, “Abracadabra.” Toys all over the family room floor and taking pictures of our beautiful girls. Grocery shopping and laundry. Dave going back to work and yard work.
What’s new in our house right now? Naomi learning to crawl and saying momma for the first time 🙂 Going in to get Lili’s 3 year photos taken and getting Naomi’s first professional photos taken. Planning Naomi’s 1st birthday celebration. Planning some trips over the next few months.
Trips? We want to take trips, enjoy life, and have something to look forward to.
We are going to Dallas in July to meet our new great-nephew Tsegaw, who will be home with his new mommy and daddy in about 3 weeks. Exciting, exciting exciting!!!
In August we are heading out to Portland to attend the first ever Toukoul Adoptive Families Reunion (TAFRU). I’ve been working on this reunion for about a year now and am so excited to meet other Toukoul adoptive families and their children.
In October we’ll head to Southern California to attend my niece’s wedding and we just couldn’t pass up the opportunity to turn it into a mini Disney vacation. Yes, we’ll be visiting Disneyland!! Lili will be about 3 1/2 years old and who couldn’t use a little magic kingdom in their lives, especially when you can experience it through the eyes of a 3 year old 🙂
What else is new? Pictures!
So get out your camera and take pictures. You’ll be glad you did!!