Life is challenging right now. Not that it’s a bad thing, it’s just challenging.
Every day we see improvements in the boys, but every day we have challenges, especially with FS1. As foster kids do, he came with baggage. Every day we preach kindness and respect. Every day we see him trying to demonstrate those things in little ways. Knowing a little about the environment he came from, I have no doubt it’s a challenge for him, but he is putting forth great effort.
Kindness and respect is also something that Naomi is hearing a lot about these days. She has been displaced as the youngest child in the family and while she was very excited about it at first, she isn’t always handling her new role in the best way. Jealously has reared its ugly head more than a few times and time-out has become a popular past-time for both Naomi and FS1. It’s one of the many challenges right now, but there are little signs that it’s improving.
FS2 has done remarkably well. I recently found out that he was a co-sleeper. I had a strong suspicion that was the case, but he wasn’t sleeping soundly with me the first few nights and has since become a pretty good crib sleeper. We’ve learned that he HATES being covered up, so warm jammies take the place of a blanket and most nights now he sleeps thru the night.
Teething has been another challenge we’ve been facing. FS2 came to us with 4 bottom teeth and a ton of drool. This week his first top tooth emerged and 3 others on trying to work their way thru. He has had some rough moments with the teeth since being here, but overall he has proven to be a pretty happy little guy and is attaching and bonding well. He has made it clear that he prefers me and will whip his head around when he hears my voice. He also cries when I walk in the room and immediately wants me to pick him up. He craves that attention and it’s challenging. With 3 other kids to care for, I can’t give him all the attention he wants and probably needs, so we’re trying to find a good balance. We’ll get there.
Lili has probably handled all the adjustments the best. She went from the big sister of one to the big sister of three. She has become a wonderful momma’s helper and enjoys caring for FS2 when my attention needs to be elsewhere. She is learning how to feed him, will give him a bottle, but isn’t eager to jump in and change diapers yet. Naomi, on the other hand, is all about the diapering. She’s even willing to try changing dirty diapers. Between the two of them, I’m just about set 🙂 Not too many challenges with Lili right now and that’s a good thing.
I took FS1 in for testing and he qualified for the pre-k program. We now have the new challenge of sending him off to public school each day and getting our homeschooling done. This is something new this week and we’ll find a good rhythm that works for us. It’s just not going to happen this week.
Another challenge is the boy’s visits with mom and dad. It’s part of the deal in foster care. Parents need the opportunity to fix what was broken and kids need to continue their relationship with mom and dad while things are being fixed. They’ve been with us 1 month on Sunday and they’ve had one visit with mom. I really can’t go into detail, but I will say that punctuality doesn’t appear to be a strong trait of moms, so they’ve spent very little time with her and haven’t seen dad at all yet. Getting regular weekly visits has been a challenge, but it’s much more a challenge for their case worker than it is for me. My challenge comes in making sure they are ready and then sitting back and waiting to see if things will work out. So far, it hasn’t worked out, but it’s early in the game.
Harvesting and preserving the harvest has also been a big challenge this year. Getting sick really set me back and my energy level still hasn’t returned to normal. I managed to pick tomatoes last weekend and canned 6 pints of tomato sauce, but that’s all I could handle. I still have tomatoes that need to be canned and more tomatoes on the vine to be picked. The weather has also hampered things. We have had a tremendous amount of rain this summer and it’s raining as I type this. I’ll do my best to get everything done, but between the kids, school, activities, and my recovery, it’s not going even close to what I had planned.
Hubby begins a new job on Tuesday. It’s with the same company, just a new position, but we had to making some scheduling changes. One of those changes was cancelling our cross-country field trip. The boys were another reason we had to cancel. We could have taken them, although we aren’t sure we could have taken them for two full weeks, but the bigger problem was hubby getting started in the new job. I can’t provide details other than to say that it was a slow process moving into this new role and the customer wanted him in the job weeks ago, so taking 1-2 weeks off right now really wouldn’t have been the best decision for his career. So we cancelled for now and will work to reschedule it for a later date. My challenge now is not focusing on the fact that we were to leave early tomorrow morning on this trip and instead we’ll be staying home.
Like I said, we have challenges, but they are manageable challenges and aren’t necessarily a bad thing.
There is one other challenge as well and that’s my computer. It’s beginning to die a slow death and we’ll be replaced soon. As such, I’m limiting my computer time and not uploading pictures until I have a new computer to use. Of course I can’t share pictures of FS1 or FS2 and I do apologize for the lack of pictures on my blog. For now, I’ll share some picture quotes which seem very applicable to my life right now.
I so admire you heart and your commitment. Foster moms are miracle workers!!!
Thanks Carrie! I don’t feel like a miracle worker at all. I just believe kids deserve the opportunity to see what normal family life is like, even if for a short time. Funny that my family is considered “normal” though. LOL!!!
You’ve got this! Keep telling yourself that. I can read it in your attitude, which is wonderful!
FS2 decided that being up for 2 hours in the night last night was a good idea. Can’t say I had the best attitude by 2:00 a.m., but it’s a new day and I learned that we need to adjust again to find more peaceful nights.